We all want a fairytale.
The hero, a damsel in distress, and a dragon to slay. There's the guy in the hall that helps a girl with her books, and there's the classic with Cinderella and her charming Prince desperately searching for her.
With all these beautiful love stories being crammed into our hearts, we're left asking: Where's mine?
If you're anything like me, sometimes you find it hard to believe that you can even have a love story. In books and movies, it's too good to be true, and in real life, parents are divorcing left and right. It's easier to read the novels or watch the movies because it's better than reality.
I think this is our first mistake: filling our hearts with stories that make us feel like we're missing something.
I know exactly what it feels like to long for that 'significant other' -trust me- but there is something that I've realized over the past couple months and it has completely changed my perception.
But before I start telling you about love and that it is possible, let me go on and tell you that there's this guy up in heaven who loves us to death. Literally. Jesus, God's Son, died on the cross for me and you because we did not meet the standard of perfection. He made us perfect by that sacrifice!
Now, there's a big difference between knowing that crazy stuff and actually believing it. Now, I can't make you understand, but God can, and I think once we can actually believe it, our hunger for an earthly love won't be so bright. Still there, but not controlling.
Love is kind of like faith. You can have works without faith, but not faith without works. Just like you can have an action without love, but not love without action, because if you sincerely love someone, you're going to DO things for them.
And if you sincerely believe in God's vast love for insignificant, little you, then, by golly, you're going to want to do everything you can for him -not to pay him back; no, we can't do that- but because you love him, and you understand that He so beautifully loves you.
Now, looking back at our little desire for a 'spousal equivalent'. Can I just say that we need to stop 'looking for love'? It doesn't sound right to me. Searching for something we know exists but are too impatient to let become beautiful. We need to stop flirting and focus on the One who showed us that love and is eventually going to bring us that love.
I'll try if you try. Deal?
Bailey (The New Girl)
-How have you been searching for love in boys?
-How can you, practically, put down the Boy Search radar and dig into God's love for you?
*Next week we'll continue talking about Princes & Knights, which one is better?